記得《北京遇上西雅圖2》裏面有過一段深刻的對白,“什麽是愛情?”,“愛如果可以做了,還會有人談嗎?”,這句話深深刻畫了當代社會的許多速溶愛情。戀人們樂意借著情人節、5.20這些日子,互訴各種真假難辨的愛意,通過鮮花、禮物、美餐、朋友圈炫耀來慶祝。
但真正深愛過的人會明白,愛一個人,能經得起時間!
曾經有一首感動過無數網友的英文詩,它的作者是一位普通的美國婦女,我們甚至不知道她的名字。她的丈夫在女兒4歲時應征入伍去了越南戰場,從此她便和女兒相依爲命。後來,她的丈夫,孩子的爸爸不幸陣亡。她終身守寡,直至年老病逝。她的女兒在整理遺物時發現了母親當年寫給父親的這首詩,題目是《But You Didn’t》 。
But You Didn’t
Remember the day I borrowed your brand
new car and dented it?
I thought you’d kill me,
but you didn’t
And remember the time I dragged you to the beach,
and you said it would rain,
and it did?I thought you’d say,
“I told you so.”
But you didn’t.
Do you remember the time I flirted with all the guys to make you jealous,
and you were?
I thought you’d leave,
but you didn’t.
Do you remember the time I spilled strawberry pie all over your car rug?
I thought you’d hit me,
but you didn’t
And remember the time I forgot to tell you the dance was formal
and you showed up in jeans?
I thought you’d drop me,
but you didn’t.
Yes, there were lots of things you didn’t do.
But you put up with me, and loved me, and protected me.
There were lots of things I wanted to make up to you
when you returned from Vietnam.
But you didn’t.
有些愛情可以感動全世界,卻無法換來一個平凡渺小,能夠共同度過的余生。什麽“兩情若是久長時,又豈在朝朝暮暮”,當愛情與時代羁絆,只能是繁華過後空悲歎!
對于這首詩的感動,也來源于我的生活。記得我的爸爸媽媽當年分離異地長達8年的等待後再相聚,這套古典咖啡杯是當年他送給她的,他們相愛相處的點點滴滴在我眼中诠釋了何謂真正天作之合的愛情。
爸爸卻在我13歲的時候過世了。這是對我原本幸福家庭最痛苦和割裂的傷痛,時至今天,媽媽依然單身,她把它送給我,今天和媽媽談起她們當年的往事,我見到她的神情依然笑靥如花,我在她眼神流轉中感受到它對父親此生不滅的愛。
爸爸短暫的一生是一種遺憾,但是你其實是世界上最幸福的男人!我們一直深愛你,從未曾忘記……
(文:卓岚)