根據我的觀察，身邊的大齡剩女的標志愛好就是旅遊、健身、做飯、養貓狗、發軟文。 她們自身條件不算差，本科，長相還可以，6分以上吧，工資夠潇灑地養活自己。曾有一位朋友圈女孩，旅遊做到了環遊全國，乃至環遊世界；做飯做到了每日一秀廚藝；養了一只賊聰明的狗狗；經常在朋友圈發感慨人生。。。但依舊單身 。
所以，單身是一種選項，但不是必選項。祝福天下單身仙女，40歲仍活出20歲的模樣。
評論翻譯：
Kanthaswamy Balasubramaniam
This is 2022
Yes in 1990 – If a Girl was unmarried at 26 or 27 it was Alarms
In 2022 – No!!!
Its not abnormal for a 31 year old Girl to both hate children and be Single and not to want to get married.
You should WANT to get married not HAVE to get married
I have seen hundreds of couples get painful divorces because Mummy and Papa pushed them into marriages that they didnt want or were ready food.
現在是2022年了！
是的，在1990年的時候，如果一個女孩在26歲或27歲時未婚，那就是個警報了。
在2022年，不是！！！
一個31歲的女孩既討厭孩子又單身又不想結婚，這並不奇怪。
人們應該想要結婚，而不是必須結婚。
我見過數百對夫婦痛苦地離婚，因爲爸爸媽媽把他們推入了他們不想要的婚姻或鋪好的道路。
Always the same story
Mummy said i was already 27 years old ..
The Pressure was too much from Parents, Relatives
Result is always the same story – Divorce Decreed under Irreconcilable Differences
There could be 20,000 Reasons why a 31 Year Old Girl doesnt want to get married
A Very Bad Breakup, Inferiority Complex wrt Complexion, Looks etc, Simply wanting to focus on Career at the moment and enjoying work too much, Being a Secret Lesbian or simply just wanting to have fun and stay single
What do you have to do ?
Let her live her life
You take a Holiday to Singapore or Australia and Enjoy Yours (Europe would not be right during the Ukranian Conflict)
總是一樣的故事。
媽媽說我已經27歲了……
來自父母、親戚的壓力太大了。
結果總是一樣的——離婚是在不可調和的分歧下被判決的。
一個31歲的女孩不想結婚可能有20000個原因。
經曆了一次很糟糕的分手，自卑，膚色問題，長相問題等等，或者只想專于注事業，過于享受工作，是個秘密的女同性戀者，或者只是想保持單身、活得開心。
你應該怎麽辦？
讓她去過她自己的生活。
你可以去新加坡或澳大利亞度假，享受你的假期（在烏克蘭沖突期間，不要去歐洲）
Gayatri Narayanan
I too was worried and extremely stressed, from the time my daughter was 22. We started getting good proposals, even now though she’s 31, though not as many.
But she is very clear about not marrying, so now have come to terms with that.
Infact when we see & hear about incompatibility of several newly married couples, on hind thought, I feel it’s not wise to force them into it.
從我女兒22歲起，我也很擔心，壓力也很大。我們剛開始會收到很多很好的建議，等到她31歲的時候，就沒有那麽多了。
她已經想清楚自己不會結婚了，所以我現在也接受了。
事實上，當我們看到和聽到幾對新婚夫婦的不和諧時，事後想想，我覺得強迫他們這樣做是不明智的。
Supriya
Oh! This girl sounds so similar to me. I am 34 now but I got married when I was 31 and I don’t like kids at all. My husband and I both intend to not have kids. I can understand her when she says she hates kids – most kids are actually annoying as hell. There are hardly any cute kids around.
Many of my friends are not having kids either. The person who asked the question – the mom or dad needs to chill. As Mr KB said, take a trip to the mountains or a beach and relax.
哦！這個女孩聽起來很像我。我現在34歲，但我31歲結婚了，我一點都不喜歡孩子。我丈夫和我都不想生孩子。當她說她討厭孩子時，我能理解她——大多數孩子實際上都很討厭。周圍幾乎沒有可愛的孩子。
我的許多朋友也沒有孩子。問這個問題的人——媽媽或爸爸需要冷靜。正如KB先生所說，去山上或海灘旅遊，放松一下。
Mani Shankar
As a loving parent, your concerns about your 31 years old daughter is quite reasonable and understandable. Any parent would like their daughter to get married and settle down in life.
However, your daughter may have her own valid reasons for remaining single, not wanting to get married and having kids. So, her decision not to get married now is quite right. She does not want to tell lies for the sake of getting married. This is quite appreciable and you must be proud of your daughter.
作爲一位慈愛的父母，你對31歲女兒的擔憂是合理的，也是可以理解的。任何父母都希望他們的女兒能結婚並安頓下來。
然而，你的女兒可能有她自己的正當理由保持單身，不想結婚生子。所以，她現在不結婚的決定是對的。她不想因爲結婚的事情而撒謊。這很值得贊賞，你一定要爲你的女兒感到驕傲。
Imagine a situation wherein under compulsion from parents, she gets married and finds it difficult to lead a marital life with husband and both decide to get separated. This will cause more hurt to everybody.
May be, she will change her thoughts later about marriage. There are many women today, who are single, love their freedom, individuality, doing well at the professional and personal front and shouldering all responsibilities joyfully.
So, accept your daughter as she is, encourage and support her, give her the assurance that you are always there to listen, understand and support and just stop worrying about what others will say.
When you do this, you will love to see the pleasant atmosphere prevailing at home for everyone to enjoy. Best wishes.
想象一下，在父母的強迫下，她結婚了，發現很難和丈夫過上婚姻生活，兩人決定分居。這將對每個人造成更大的傷害。
也許，她以後會改變對婚姻的看法。今天有很多單身女性，她們熱愛自己的自由和個性，在職業和個人方面做得很好，並愉快地肩負著所有責任。
所以，接受你女兒的現狀，鼓勵和支持她，向她保證你總是在那裏傾聽、理解和支持，不要再擔心別人會說什麽。
當你這樣做的時候，你歡喜地看到家裏盛行著愉快的氣氛，讓每個人都能快樂。最美好的祝福。
Simranjeet Singh Gandhi
In any case the regrets are bound to be much more on the side of getting married. There are on the other side too, but much less. All the major decisions of life are ultimately a trade-off of regrets.
Nothing comes free!
無論如何，結婚的遺憾肯定會更多。單身也會有遺憾，但要少得多。生活中所有的重大決定最終都是一種遺憾的權衡。
沒有什麽是免費的！
Aditi S.M
No it is not ok!
You have to force her to get married by 24
Have kids by 26
And life her life crying each day regretting she was raised in a family that forces her to be who she is not.
Do you want this?
If yes please put pressure on her, weep everyday infront of her so that she gives up on her happiness.
不，這不好！
你必須強迫她在24歲之前結婚。
26歲的時候生孩子。
然後，她的人生每天都在哭泣，後悔在這樣一個強迫她做別人的家裏長大。
你想要這個嗎？
如果是，請給她施加壓力，每天在她面前哭泣，這樣她就會放棄她的幸福。
Imagine if due to family pressure she gets married and even has a kid. But if that is not what she wants will she be happy?
There are so many girls not willing to marry or have kids and are living so happily, living a life they want.
They say purpose of getting married is to get a company when one falls sick or is low. Is someone really required?
If she can manage things on her own, let her take her own time. Let her figure out things.
Let girls live a life they want.
Let marriage not be a major goal in life.
想象一下，如果由于家庭壓力，她結婚了，甚至有了一個孩子。但如果那不是她想要的，她會高興嗎？
有那麽多女孩不願意結婚或生孩子，她們過著幸福的生活，過著她們想要的生活。
他們結婚的目的是在一個人生病或情緒低落時找一個伴。有些人真的擁有這些了嗎？
如果她能自己管理事情，就讓她自己慢慢來吧。讓她自己去把事情弄清楚。
讓女孩過她們想要的生活。
不要讓婚姻成爲人生的主要目標。
Rini George
Is there any rule book that says your 31 year old daughter should be married. That she must no matter what love kids or should want marriage?? Or does the law asks her to be so??
No must be the answer.
When there is no such rule/law they why so much pressure.
Some people get married at 24, have kids by 30, some other get married at 35 have kids by 36, some marry at 30 and decide to never have kids. Some never want to take the path of marriage. That’s their personal choice. It’s better for everyone if we don’t interfere and disturb their balance of life and let them be.
有什麽規定，你31歲的女兒必須要結婚。不管怎麽樣，她必須愛孩子或者是想要結婚？？還是法律要求她這麽做？？
答案一定是否定的。
當沒有這樣的規則或法律時，他們爲什麽要承受如此大的壓力。
有些人24歲結婚，30歲生孩子，有些人35歲結婚，36歲生孩子，有些人30歲結婚，決定永遠不要孩子。有些人從不想走婚姻之路。這是他們個人的選擇。如果我們不幹涉和擾亂他們的生活平衡，讓他們順其自然，那對每個人都好。
Rich Thomas
your daughter is choosing to avoid the Pitfalls of being married. Many women who get married and have kids were very different beforehand. A woman goes thru a transformation of sorts That ain’t pretty to watch. She goes from being a youthful Vibrant woman with a nice figure to someone who’s totally grumpy and misshapen. Her sex life goes from energizer bunny to sluggish turtle. She’s usually tired and no longer wants to get out and do things. Your daughter wants to keep her youthful figure and have freedom to what she wants and she wants. She’d rather not have to deal with the stress and responsibility Of a husband and kids who would suck up her energy. In other words she a totally normal woman who wants to have as much fun as she can while she’s still young
你女兒正在選擇避免結婚的陷阱。許多結婚生子的女性在結婚之前和之後都有很大的不同。一個女人經曆了一種不好的轉變。她從一個身材優美、朝氣蓬勃的年輕女人變成了一個脾氣暴躁、身材畸形的女人。她的性生活從精力旺盛的兔子變成了行動遲緩的烏龜。她通常很累，不想再出去做事了。你女兒想保持年輕的身材，想做什麽就做什麽。她甯願不必面對丈夫和孩子的壓力和責任，因爲他們會吸走她的精力。換句話說，她是一個完全正常的女人，她想在年輕的時候盡可能多地享受樂趣。
Paul Hackshaw
Who decides what is normal when it comes to other people? It’s her life and if she doesn’t want to marry then it’s no one else’s business but hers. Not all women are maternal nor want kids.
當涉及到其他人時，誰能決定什麽是正常的？這是她的生活，如果她不想結婚，那麽這不是別人的事，是她的。並非所有女性都是母親，也有不想要孩子的。
Claire Harris
Perfectly. If she hates kids then she hates kids. Not everyone meets someone they love enough to marry and lots of people are more career than family oriented. Love her for who she is, be proud that you raised an independent daughter not afraid to follow her own path in life.
完美。如果她討厭孩子，那就讓她討厭孩子。並不是每個人都會遇到他們愛得足以結婚的人，很多人更注重事業而不是家庭。愛她本身的性格，爲你養育了一個獨立的女兒而自豪，她不怕走自己的人生道路。
Julie Raines
Yes, it’s normal. Many men and women in their 30s are shunning marriage or relationships altogether because they don’t find the drama worth it. Men don’t see the need to marry as they can get sex freely from women without committing to them and are able to cook and clean on their own. Women don’t see the need to marry since they are able to work and support themselves. They may find the freedom of living their own life preferable to looking after a husband.
There are exceptions, but most men and women are able to look after themselves without relying on a spouse. So the only real reason to marry is if you fall in love with the other person and can’t imagine life without them.
是的，這很正常。許多30多歲的男性和女性完全回避婚姻或戀愛，因爲他們覺得這部戲不值得。男人不認爲有結婚的必要，因爲他們可以自由地從女人那裏得到性，而不需要承諾，並且能夠自己做飯和打掃衛生。女性認爲沒有必要結婚，因爲她們能夠工作和養活自己。他們可能會發現，與照顧丈夫相比，自由地過自己的生活更可取。
當然也有例外，但大多數男性和女性都能夠在不依賴配偶的情況下照顧自己。所以結婚的唯一真正原因是如果你愛上了另一個人，並且無法想象沒有他們的生活。
In my opinion, marriage or relationships in general are wonderful if you are with the right person, but they can be absolutely horrible and even dangerous if you don’t choose wisely. It is a huge gamble as people change throughout their life and they may change into someone you really don’t like. This is beyond your control and impossible to predict. Some people will find the risk worth it while others don’t.
Your daughter is fine the way she is and can lead a perfectly fulfilling life as a single, childless woman if she chooses. If she regrets her choice years from now, the she will just have to live with it and make the best of her situation.
在我看來，如果你和對的人在一起，婚姻或關系總的來說是美好的，但如果你不明智地選擇，它們可能是絕對可怕的，甚至是危險的。這是一場巨大的賭博，因爲人們一生都在變化，他們可能會變成你不喜歡的人。這超出了你的控制範圍，無法預測。有些人會覺得值得冒這個險，而有些人則覺得不值得。
你的女兒很好，如果她願意的話，她可以作爲一個單身、沒有孩子的女人過上完美的生活。如果幾年後她後悔自己的選擇，她需要接受它，並作出那時局面最好的選擇。
Swasini Sudarsan
Marriage is a life long commitment to someone whom you love. It’s solely a personal decision if your daughter wants to get married or not.
Your daughter might have her own priorities over getting married and having a family.
Your daughter could be one of those not so normal women!
It takes guts to love yourself and live only for your dreams in this world.
I love and respect your daughter because:
She doesn’t want to get married for the sake of getting married to impress few people around her.
She is independent, brave and self sufficient to survive in this judgemental world.
婚姻是對你所愛的人的終身承諾。你女兒想不想結婚完全是個人決定。
你的女兒在結婚和組建家庭方面可能有她自己的優先事項。
你的女兒可能是一個不那麽正常的女人！
在這個世界上，愛自己，只爲夢想而活，需要勇氣。
我愛並尊重你的女兒，因爲：
1、她不想爲了給周圍的人留下美好的印象而結婚。
2、她獨立、勇敢、自給自足，能夠在這個動辄對他人評頭論足的世界中生存。
Ellen-Jo Lancey
I am 58 years old, happily married and happily childless. Not everyone is cut out for parenthood, Good for your daughter that she recognized this instead of bowing to convention and making a child she doesnt want. People think that conceiving makes them special. it doesnt, almost anybody can do it.
我今年58歲，婚姻幸福，沒有孩子。並不是每個人都適合做父母，這對你的女兒來說是件好事，她認識到這一點，而不是屈從于傳統，生了一個她不想要的孩子。人們認爲懷孕使他們與衆不同。事實並非如此，幾乎任何人都能做到。
Christopher Petit
It’s more common than you think.
Your daughter may not want to marry because she has rightfully realized that, when people marry, even before having kids, the woman ends up doing the lion’s share of the housework, cleaning and chores —- even if both spouses have careers. Even completely self-sufficient men start to rely on their spouse to do many of the things they did themselves for years.
And that marriage improves the man’s happiness but lowers the woman’s happiness. So in effect even before having kids she HAS one —- her husband.
And if your daughter hates kids, do you really think it’s a fantastic idea for her to be a parent?
So I wouldn’t worry if it’s normal or not.
這比你想象的要普遍。
你的女兒可能不想結婚，因爲她理所當然地意識到，當人們結婚時，甚至在沒有孩子之前，女人最終會承擔大部分家務、清潔和日常零碎——即使配偶雙方都有職業。即使是完全自給自足的男人也開始依賴他們的配偶爲他們做多年來自己做的許多事情。
這種婚姻提高了男人的幸福感，但也降低了女人的幸福感。所以事實上，甚至在有孩子之前，她就有了一個孩子——她的丈夫。
如果你的女兒討厭孩子，你真的認爲她做父母是個好主意嗎？
所以我不會擔心這是否正常。
Bharanithar Babu E
Yes, it is.
She is old enough to take decisions for herself. Please respect it. Why force her into marriage when she isn’t interested in it?
是的。
她已經長大，可以自己做決定了。請尊重這件事。如果她對婚姻不感興趣，爲什麽還要強迫她結婚？
Ankita Joshi
She is perfectly normal mam. That is the life even I want. She sounds just like me. 🙂
她完全是正常的。這就是我想要的生活。她聽起來很像我。
Sabine Schaefer
Absolutely normal.
Don’t press on her, she might change her mind once she meets the right guy, if she doesn’t it’s not a great deal.
Thankfully we live in times when the value of a woman no longer depends on the presence of a husband and at least two children.
絕對正常。
別逼她，一旦她遇到合適的人，她可能會改變主意，如果她不這麽做，那也沒什麽大不了的。
謝天謝地，我們生活在一個女人的價值不再取決于丈夫和至少兩個孩子的存在的時代。
Amit Vikram
No it’s not normal.
She is possessed, probably.
And she must be exhorcised immediately.
不，這不正常。
她可能著魔了。
她需要立刻進行驅魔。
Mohammed Yousuf
There may be reasons for her to decide against marrying or having kids. Some of the reasons :
1- She might have seen married couple having lots of quarrels and ultimately heading for divorce.
2- She might have seen her own parents life which she never liked.
3- Her sexuality to be determined.
她可能有理由決定不結婚或不生孩子。其中一些原因：
1、她可能看到已婚夫婦爭吵不休，最終走向離婚。
2、她可能見過自己父母的生活，但她從來都不喜歡。
3、她的性取向有待確定。
Sahil
She is already overage for marriage.. Now you have to find out 35 to 40yrs of age guys for her, might she doesn’t like such guys.
So take steps as early as possible. Marriage is necessary for taking the life experiences including those which is need to have it in any case, cannot be controlled through determination.
她已經完全超過了適婚的年齡了……現在你必須爲她找到35到40歲的男人，也許她不喜歡這樣的男人。
因此，要盡早采取措施。婚姻是獲取生活經驗的必要條件，包括那些無論如何都要獲取的經驗，無法通過確定性來控制的經驗。
angeeta
Loving freedom is a very thing these days, irrespective of the gender.
I, myself, was not willing to get married until 29. I got married at 29 and then I was not ready to embrace motherhood. Finally, I decided to be a mother at the age of 34.
Oh yes, I also never liked kids. Now, I smile at kids after my son is born but yes, I am still not a very kid friendly person.
We look at the hardships of previous generation and subconsciously make a decision to not get married.
如今，無論性別如何，熱愛自由都是一件非常重要的事情。
我自己直到29歲才願意結婚。我29歲結婚，那時我還沒有准備好做母親。最後，我決定在34歲的時候做一個母親。
哦，是的，我也從來不喜歡孩子。現在，我在兒子出生後，也會對孩子們微笑，但是，我仍然不是一個非常友善的人。
我們看著上一代人的艱辛，下意識地決定不結婚。
I remember my mother doing all the household chores even when she is unwell. She worked 365 days in a year.
I remember my neighbor aunty cooking in a hurry and then rushing to office. While the uncle woke up only by 8.00 PM. Uncle had Saturdays off but Aunty had office on Saturdays as well. Even on Saturdays Aunty use to cook before she started for office.
Recently, a young guy has joined us as an intern. He was talking to someone over the call so we teasingly asked him, “girlfriend?”. He replied, “no mam, I don’t want to get married so I don’t want to get into any commitment”.
我記得我母親做著所有的家務，即使她不舒服。她一年工作365天。
我記得我的鄰居阿姨匆匆忙忙地做飯，然後趕往辦公室。而叔叔可以睡到晚上8點才醒來，他星期六休息，但是阿姨星期六也要辦公。即使在星期六，阿姨在上班前也要做好飯。
最近，一個年輕人加入我們做實習生。他在電話裏和別人交談，于是我們打趣地問他：“女朋友？”。他回答說：“不，是媽媽，我不想結婚，所以我不想做出任何承諾。”
I asked him, “what happened?” He told me, “I think, males are burdened with too much of financial responsibilities. I want to earn and spend on myself, not my kids or spouse.”
I asked him, “why do you feel so? Female these days are equally supporting financially”.
After a fraction of seconds, he replied “today, I feel bad for my dad. He earned so hard and today, he doesn’t even own a property.”
I just smiled and understood the pressure of other gender.
Now, coming back to your question…
We have absorbed a lot from our previous generation. We aren’t able to undo it.
Your daughter is completely normal. She is just scared of the responsibilities that comes with marriage and kids.
She might change her mind when she meets someone equal. Someone who would ensure her that all her responsibilities would be shared equally and she would not be burdened.
我問他：“爲什麽？”他告訴我，“我認爲男性肩負著太多的經濟責任。我想爲我自己賺錢和消費，而不是我的孩子或配偶。”
我問他：“爲什麽你這麽覺得？現在女性在經濟上都是平等的。”。
幾秒鍾後，他回答說：“今天，我爲我的父親感到難過。他掙了那麽多錢，今天，他甚至沒有自己的財産。”
我只是微笑著，理解其他性別的壓力。
現在，回到你的問題……
我們從上一代人那裏吸取了很多東西。我們無法撤消它。
你女兒完全正常。她只是害怕婚姻和孩子帶來的責任。
當她遇到平等的人時，她可能會改變主意。一個能夠確保她所有的責任都能平等分擔的人，她不會承受任何多余的負擔。
Alina Khan
There are two reasons why she is not getting married:
a) She is in love with a guy and feels that you may not approve of him, so, she says that she doesn’t want to get married. Possible reasons could be different race, religion, caste or economic backgrounds.
b) She is in love with a girl and fears you won’t approve of same-sex relation.
c) She has no one in her life and feels that arranged marriages are fake.
d) She is asexual.
e) She has her heart broken and doesn’t want to invest in a relationship anymore.
d) She is not ready mentally to get married.
e) She feels that the idea of marriage is futile.
她不結婚有幾個原因：
a） 她愛上了一個男人，覺得你可能不贊成他，所以，她說她不想結婚。可能的原因是：不同的種族、宗教、種姓或經濟背景。
b） 她愛上了一個女孩，擔心你不贊成同性關系。
c） 她生活中沒有合適的人，但感覺包辦婚姻是不真實的。
d） 她性冷淡。
e） 她心碎了，不想再投資感情了。
d） 她還沒有做好結婚的心理准備。
e） 她覺得結婚的想法是無關緊要的。
Possible solutions:
a) Try to talk to her about any guy she may be seeing. Be open to accept a person who is different from your expectations.
b) You will have to go against the society and your family if you want to embrace a homosexual daughter.
c) Tell her that marriage offers many benefits.
d) You can’t do anything. Let her be.
e) Tell her that all men are not the same. Give example of yourself and how much you love your wife.
d) Tell her that there is an age for everything. She may have difficulty in having kids after 35.
e) Tell her that marriage is a bond of the lifetime and tell her how you have benefited from it.
All the best 🙂
可能的解決方案：
a） 試著和她談談她可能遇到的任何男人。開放地接受一個與你期望不同的女婿。
b） 如果你想擁抱一個同性戀女兒，你就必須與社會和家庭作對。
c） 告訴她婚姻有很多好處。
d） 你什麽都做不了。讓她去吧。
e） 告訴她所有的男人都不一樣。舉例說明你自己和你有多愛你的妻子。
d） 告訴她什麽都有年齡。35歲以後她可能很難生孩子。
e） 告訴她婚姻是一生的紐帶，告訴她你們是如何從中受益的。
祝你一切順利：）
Urban Lady
This is such a weird response. OP’s daughter is normal, stop pushing your ideology into thinking that every woman need to have children.
這真是一個奇怪的答複。題主的女兒很正常，別再把你那每個女人都必須要孩子的想法強加給別人了。
Odde Siva Kesavam
Different people had given different advices mostly concluding that your daughter’s situation as normal as the humanbody temprature being 98.6¤F.
If that is the case as being advocated by many :
then why does a man/ woman need a marriage?
What is the sanctity of the institution of marriage?
How does a man fulfill his fatherhood or a woman her motherhood?
Why are so many marriage bureaues working in the country & abroad?
Why so many matrimonial advertisements are coming in all the news papers?
Why there are infertility clinics in every nook & corner of the country?
How do you explain the surrogacy mother’s syndrome?
Why so many issueless couples adopting children without even knowing the origin of the child?
此人是個印度人，備注是材料科學家，冶金學博士，印度科學研究所退休人員，之前主要在QA宣傳《博伽梵歌》（瑜伽界最高指導經典），現在賬號因爲不知名原因被禁用了……
不同的人給出了不同的建議，主要結論是：你女兒的情況和人體溫度98.6華氏度一樣正常。
如果你們這麽多人都認爲正常，那麽：
1、爲什麽一個男人/女人需要結婚呢？
2、婚姻制度的神聖性是什麽？
3、一個男人如何履行他的父親職責，一個女人如何履行她的母親職責？
4、爲什麽這麽多婚姻局在國內外工作？
5、爲什麽所有的報紙上都有這麽多婚姻廣告？
6、爲什麽這個國家的每個角落都有不孕不育診所？
7、你如何解釋代孕母親綜合症？
8、爲什麽這麽多沒有問題的夫婦甚至不知道孩子來自哪裏就收養了孩子？
The case of your daughter in my personal opinion is not normal at all.
It is a case of abnormal behaviour& is a case of wrong diagnosis. The remedy being suggested is worse than the melady.
I don’t want to go into details , except suggesting that :
you yourself & your spouse should jointly endeavour to arrange for her marriage immediately.
Otherwise, you both will be deemed to be failing in your duties as parents , inflicting the most unkindest cut of all on your innocent daughter.
Wishing you success in your endeavours.
在我個人看來，你女兒的情況根本不正常。
這是一個異常行爲的案例，也是一個錯誤診斷的案例。上面的人提的補救措施比診斷更糟糕。
我不想談細節，只是建議：
1、你自己和你的配偶應該立即共同努力安排她的婚姻。
2、否則，你們倆都將被視爲不履行作爲父母的職責，給你們無辜的女兒造成了最無情的傷害。
祝你事業成功。
Richard Dewalt
This person’s account has been banned for what I hope you realize are logical reasons, particularly in looking up at the answer above.
Anyone reading this, please realize that a 31-year-old is far beyond childhood and is not a breeding slave to their parents.
You did not ‘fail in your duty’ either. If you raised a kid who has become a successful and independent adult, you succeeded.
樓上的帳戶已經被禁用了，但我還是希望你能意識到，你上面查看到的答案是合乎邏輯的。
任何讀到這篇文章的人，請意識到一個31歲的人遠遠超越了童年，他們不是父母的生育奴隸。
你也沒有“失職”。如果你撫養的孩子已經成爲一個成功和獨立的成年人，你就成功了。
Marie Perkins
Is this a serious comment??? This isn’t the 1800s.
這是一個嚴肅的評論嗎？？？現在不是19世紀。
男人特別主動。多半發生在青春期二十出頭。爲愛生爲愛死，幹淨純粹能獻上真心，可以苦守可以主動追求。即便你是沒發育完全胸口一馬平川的黃毛丫頭一個，他們也能當你是九天玄女仙子下凡。
二十大幾三十加之後的男人們，已經開始趨向理智。少了青春熱血。他們會主動。但是當主動一次次得不到回應，他們也會及時停下腳步。
僅共勉